This afternoon I want to speak to you about egg shells............
Dictionary.com says : walk on eggshells : to be very cautious or diplomatic for fear of upsetting someone
When you live with someone who has anger issues, you tend to get into a routine of 'walking on eggshells' to avoid the probable explosion. It's usually not a matter of IF it will happen, but WHEN. The sad fact is, you never know WHAT will set him/her off. It could be the smallest, most insignificant thing, but it will send them over the edge.
Living with my former spouse for over 20 years, I came to walk very lightly around him a good majority of the time. I never knew which side of him I would come home to. He could be sweet and loving, or he could have the house or yard torn apart, ranting and screaming all the while because things weren't the way HE thought they should be.
Our children learned, at a very young age, to fear him and to walk on eggshells. That's a horrible way for children to live.
We all need correction and guidance from time to time, but all needs to be done in love not radical anger.
Do you live with someone you suspect has Personality Disorder? I read a great book and suggest you read it as well.........
It's called "Why is he so mean to me?" by Cindy Burrell.
It was a real page turner for me. I always told my friends I just wanted him to be nice to me. I didn't ask for jewels, fancy cars or fancy homes, just kindness. This book really hit home for me.
If you're walking on eggshells, PLEASE assess your situation. Are you living with someone rational or irrational? Take whatever measures necessary to be safe. Every couple has the occasional argument, but if it's on a regular basis (every few days, every other day or every day), seek counsel as to what to do next.
If you can convince your spouse/significant other to go to counseling, GREAT!! I think it's something we all need. If not, I suggest Godly counsel. Pray about it and talk with someone you trust.
Be blessed & be safe!!
Penny
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